Adoption as a Lifelong Journey
Adoption can be both a gift and a challenge, and is filled with complicated emotions. Contrary to what we may think - it is not a one time event, but a lifelong journey of self discovery.
The good news? You don’t have to have it all figured out!
Healing isn’t linear and that means it’s completely normal to question who you are, especially as we grow and navigate our lives.
In honor of national adoption month, here are a few thoughts from a fellow adoptee:
Feelings Can Be Complicated
Adoption is complicated and confusing! Every story begins with a loss of biological connection. For many, this loss is deeply felt and is what author Nancy Verrier refers to as the “Primal Wound”.
This primal wound can lead us to a wide array of emotions: confusion, grief, anger, love, guilt, and everything in between.
But the truth? All emotions are valid and deserve to be felt!
You Are Worthy
Every person is worthy of kindness, compassion, and grace. You are not defined by how life begins, but what you choose to do with it.
If you’re adopted and ever questioned your worth, I hope you know:
Your worth is never up for debate.
You are worthy of love, just as you are.
Adoption is a Life-long Journey
Our journey as adoptees doesn’t end after papers are signed, it’s only the beginning. As we learn and grow, our understanding of adoptions may change. You might revisit your adoption story, ask new questions, or grieve.
In my experience as an adoptee, I say, embrace the change! Embrace all aspects of what it means to be adopted, what it means to question where you are from, and how you navigate and learn what it means to be you.
In the words of my favorite author:
“Not all those who wander are lost.”
Happy National Adoption Month!
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Citations:
Verrier, N. N. (1993). The primal wound: Understanding the adopted child. Gateway Press.
